Mari Selvaraj’s world

Mari Selvaraj’s works—his books, stories, and films—feel less like separate creations and more like different windows into the same world. When I read his writing or watch his films, I don’t experience them as isolated pieces. They feel interleaved, constantly referring back to the same landscapes, memories, and histories.

Reading his book சம்படி ஆட்டம் felt like flying back into nostalgia from when I was growing up. But the feeling is not limited to that one book. The same world appears in his films as well. The villages, the ponds, the small incidents of childhood, the social hierarchies, and the everyday struggles—all of them form a recurring landscape in his storytelling.

I am from Kadambankulam, a village not too far from Puliyankulam, and I couldn’t stop drawing similarities between our lives. It starts with the word “kulam” in both our village names. That itself reminds me that we come from the same landscape—villages that depend on ponds for their livelihood.

I also come from what Mari describes as a “single-caste village.” Most of the people in my village belong to the same caste. Growing up, that felt normal. Only later did I begin to realize how much that shapes the way people see the world.

One memory that always stays with me is when a government bus first started coming into our village. The entire village celebrated it. It felt like a major event, almost like the outside world had finally arrived at our doorstep. When I later watched Karnan, that moment felt very familiar. The struggle for a bus stop in the film didn’t feel like fiction to me.

No, I am not from the same caste background as Mari Selvaraj. But I can still understand, at least partially, what growing up in that environment must have felt like. All the folks from my village owned lands.

Whenever I traveled through the places where Mari grew up, I used to think those people were blessed to live close to the river Thamirabarani. In my village we never had enough water for agriculture. But only after reading his work did I realize something deeper: even though they lived close to the river, many of them, being from lower castes, did not own the land. Even today, in villages, land ownership is the main source of wealth and security. Without land, even farmers remain poor.

His stories often reveal these invisible structures of village life. What appears beautiful from a distance—the river, the fields, the green landscape—carries a very different meaning depending on who owns the land and who works on it.

Reading and watching Mari’s work also made me realize that I grew up inside a bubble. I went to an English-medium school. My family had enough to ensure we ate three meals a day. The caste tensions that Mari speaks about were not something I understood deeply then.

Growing up, I knew the names of caste icons and local strongmen. They were part of the background of village life. When certain leaders were killed, violence followed in nearby villages. When revenge killings happened elsewhere, celebrations erupted with crackers in the streets. At that time these events felt normal, like distant echoes of conflicts that didn’t directly involve us.

Looking back now, I realize how fortunate I was to be kept away from those tensions. For me, caste became visible only in the tenth standard, when school required a caste certificate. That was when my mother casually mentioned that one of my friends was not from our caste. Until then, the structures that organized village society had largely remained invisible to me.

Cinema, perhaps more than anything else, reveals these structures. For a long time, Tamil cinema—largely shaped by filmmakers from dominant castes—presented Tamil culture in a simplified and universal way. The food was always sambar and idlis. The villages were aesthetic backdrops. Social conflicts were rarely explored in depth.

When filmmakers like Mari Selvaraj began telling their stories, a different world entered the screen. Suddenly there were pigs, labourers, fields, caste conflicts, and the harsh realities of rural life. The tide is slowly changing. Through his films, the life of districts like Tirunelveli and Thoothukudi appears on screen in a way that feels authentic and lived.

What makes Mari’s storytelling powerful is not that he invents extraordinary events. Instead, he brings attention to things that many of us saw growing up but never questioned.

For instance, some of my cousins were not well off. They would wake up early in the morning to help their parents in the fields before getting ready for school. As a child, I simply accepted this as a fact of life. It never occurred to me to think about how exhausting that must have been. Watching films like Vaazhai made me revisit those memories and see them differently.

There is also an interesting similarity between Mari’s family and mine. In both households there was a strong belief that education was the path to a better life. That idea was deeply rooted in many families in rural Tamil Nadu.

But the journeys that follow that belief can be very different. Some people manage to move through the formal education system and build their lives that way. Others struggle within that system and find entirely different paths. Mari’s path eventually led him to storytelling and cinema, where he now documents the very world that shaped him.

Sometimes I also feel that Mari was fortunate in another way. His village seems to have had people who were politically aware—an uncle who was a communist, relatives who knew about Ambedkar, and conversations shaped by those ideas.

My village was not like that. Politically and socially, we were not as aware. In many ways, people are still figuring that part out.

Another of Mari’s books, Tamirabaraniyil Kolapadathavargal, was particularly eye-opening for me. The book tells the story of the Tamirabarani firing from the perspective of those who lived through it. Reading it made me realize how different events can look depending on whose eyes you see them through.

While reading it, I couldn’t help thinking about the similarities between the Tamirabarani firing of July 23, 1999 and the Tuticorin firing of 2018. These are only my personal thoughts, and I have rarely seen this comparison discussed elsewhere.

In both cases, ordinary people protesting for their rights faced the force of the state. In 1999 it was workers demanding better wages. In 2018 it was people protesting against the Sterlite plant. In both situations, the police acted as the instrument of the ruling system.

Corporations were present in the background in both cases as well—Bombay Burma Trading Corporation in one instance and Vedanta in the other. In different ways, both conflicts involved the power of large institutions confronting small communities.

I still remember someone mentioning very casually during my college days that after the 1999 firing there had been no major uprising in Tirunelveli. That sentence stayed with me. When the Tuticorin firing happened in 2018, I wondered whether the system had again acted in a way that would ensure such uprisings would not happen again.

There is another aspect of Mari Selvaraj’s world that feels deeply authentic to me—his depiction of village deities.

In mainstream media, the small gods of the villages are often mocked, simplified, or turned into superstition. Middle-class narratives tend to comfortably accept gods like Vishnu or Shiva, but ridicule deities like Pechi, Kaatu Pechi, or Kaalamadan.

But for many villages, these are the gods that people actually live with.

Growing up with deities like Sudalaimadan and Kuthupirai Azhagi Amman, Mari’s depiction of these gods feels far more real than anything mainstream cinema has shown before. These gods are not abstract philosophical figures. They are part of the land, the forest, the cremation ground, the village boundary.

Seeing these deities represented with dignity and intensity in his work was almost overwhelming for me.

It felt like seeing a part of village life that had always existed quietly being finally acknowledged on screen and in literature.

That may be why Mari Selvaraj’s works feel less like fiction and more like memory.

His writing and films often bring me back to the villages of my childhood—the ponds, the fields, the early mornings, the unspoken social boundaries, the small shrines under trees, and the people who quietly carried the weight of those structures.

In that sense, Mari Selvaraj’s works do more than tell stories.

They reopen memories that many of us had simply moved past.

And sometimes it feels good to return there.

Bribe confession day

Bribe confession day

I’m 36 today, and I want to confess every bribe I’ve paid.

I grew up believing corruption is wrong. Movies, books, and school lessons drilled that into us. But living in India long enough teaches you that corruption isn’t an exception — it’s the system itself.

₹2,000 for a ration card. A few hundreds for a driving licence. ₹500 for passport verification — where the police actually made me buy him lunch.

Traffic police? I’ve bribed them too, though only when I genuinely broke a rule.

When I bought a small piece of land in my hometown, the story repeated itself. The Village Administrator Officer (VAO) charged ₹6,000 to correct a patta error — casual, open corruption. Every official expects something extra, no matter how small the task.

For the past six months, I’ve been trying to get an electricity connection for that same land. The engineer keeps dropping hints. I know exactly what he’s waiting for. Until I pay, nothing will move.

And then, I recently travelled to New York. That trip only reminded me how broken we are. We can’t even build a simple roadside walkway properly. Not a single government project gets done right. And yet, people are brainwashed into believing that “India is growing” and “India is great.” It’s painful to watch how easily we accept mediocrity.

When someone says “Voting is every citizen’s right,” I just want to laugh. Or scream. What’s the point of voting when all we do is choose between two corrupt rulers? In 1947, it feels like the British didn’t leave — they just handed power to another ruling class in Indian clothes. Nobody has ever cared about the common man. If they had, things would look very different today.

And yes — when I bought my apartment in Bangalore, I was told to pay a portion in cash. Why? Because that’s the bribe amount fixed for every apartment in that society — money that goes straight into the registration office. Everyone knows it, everyone pays it, and nobody bats an eye.

That’s what hurts the most — corruption isn’t hidden anymore. It’s just part of life.

Letting Go Is Good

This January, something unexpected happened. I was on a flight to New York when a medical emergency occurred involving a fellow passenger, and we were forced to land in Reykjavik, the capital of Iceland. It was my first time there. I stepped out of the plane into a cold, quiet world — and I instantly fell in love with the place. I knew I wanted to return someday. But for now, I decided to travel there through books.

That’s how I came across Angels of the Universe by Einar Már Guðmundsson. The book is set in Reykjavik and follows a man living with schizophrenia a mental disorder that affects how he sees reality. What I didn’t expect was how deeply I would connect with the main character. His thoughts and actions felt strangely familiar. It made me reflect on parts of myself I hadn’t thought about in years.

One part of the book hit me hard — his breakup with his girlfriend. The way he acted, the way he held on, refusing to let go… it reminded me of my own breakup many years ago. Back then, I didn’t know how to handle rejection. I kept trying, kept showing up, even when I was asked not to. I thought it was love. I thought if I just showed how much I cared, things would change.

But they didn’t. And reading this book made me see how wrong I was. It’s not love if you can’t respect someone’s decision. It’s not care if it comes with pressure.

Of course, realizing this 15 years later doesn’t change the past. But it does shape how I act today. When someone says “no,” even if you still like them, you have to let them go. That’s not weakness. That’s strength.

Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you care enough to give the other person space, even if it hurts. It means you’ve learned something from your past. And in some quiet way, that’s growth.

Reykjavik

Magic Moment

I believe in magical moments, no not the Vodka.

Some moments which feel like magic. These moments leave a long impact on you. Magic is not real. But in this case, what I mean is so real. What I mean by magic here is ecstatic or being too happy. These are raw, unfiltered experiences that hit you in a way nothing else can.

These moments create a natural high—an intense rush of emotion. In contrast, the easiest and most accessible way to achieve a high is through alcohol or substances, as they are readily available and can be consumed at will. However, the allure of these profound moments lies in their rarity, making them even more addictive. Once experienced, the desire to relive them becomes irresistible.

These magical moments I’m referring to aren’t something you can fully control. You might not even recognize them as they unfold, but when you look back, they give you that undeniable high. I suppose some people may go their entire lives without ever experiencing them.

We are naturally wired to seek out what brings us happiness and avoid what causes us pain. Someone who has experienced these moments will inevitably crave more of them. A thoughtful person might even try to break down and analyze the experience—essentially overthinking it—in an attempt to recreate similar moments in the future.

Not always mutual.

The way I experience a moment isn’t necessarily the same as how others involved perceive it. Feelings are deeply personal, and assuming they are shared can lead to misunderstandings. When another person is involved, people often label these emotions as “falling in love,” but that isn’t always the case. I’ve realized through multiple experiences that my feelings toward a person or an incident don’t always align with how they see it.

Once, I made the mistake of confessing my feelings to someone, and while she handled it with grace, it was clear she didn’t feel the same way. That stung a little, but it taught me that sometimes, it’s best to simply experience the moment and move on without expressing it. After all, you could be going through something profound while the other person is just having an ordinary day.

Emotions are shaped by individual perspectives, past experiences, and how our minds are wired. And sometimes, putting them into words can diminish their intensity. If the feeling is mutual, consider yourself lucky—perhaps that’s the essence of the bond between Joker and Quinn.

Not always socially accepted.

Society functions like a bell curve—so long as your emotions fall within the “normal” range, they are welcomed and even celebrated. But the moment they deviate from the norm, you risk being labeled an psycho. That doesn’t make the feelings any less real.

Falling in love, for example, is widely accepted and even romanticized. But when love steps outside conventional boundaries—whether it’s with someone already married, a significant age gap, or the same gender—society’s approval often fades. The feeling is real irrespective of whether the society accepts it or not.

Nothing lasts forever.

Feelings fade. With time, as people move on, emotions shift—it’s not guaranteed that what you feel today will remain the same tomorrow. Trying to hold on too tightly or chase these moments can sometimes strip them of their magic.

Embrace Your Magical Moments.

These magical moments can be found in the simplest of experiences—engaging in a deep conversation with someone special, losing yourself in a captivating book, witnessing the beauty of a sunrise or sunset, passionate session of love making, or immersing yourself in nature’s tranquility. Seek out the people and activities that bring these moments to life, and surround yourself with them to make your journey truly fulfilling.

Mention the magic moments you have experienced or the person you experienced them with, in the comments.

அழுவது ஏன் – கி. ராஜநாராயணன்

அரை நூற்றாண்டுக்கு முன் நடந்த கதை.

மதியச் சாப்பாடு முடிந்தது. வீட்டுத் தொழுவின் திண்ணையில் சாய்ந்து படுத்தேன்.

தூக்கம் வந்தாலும் வரலாம். தெரிந்தவர்கள் யாராவது வந்தாலும் வரலாம்.

நினைத்தப்படியே வந்தான் சொந்தக்காரன்.

பெயர் வேண்டாம். புதுக்கல்யாண மாப்பிள்ளை.

இங்கேதான் பெண் எடுத்தவன் அவன்மேல் கல்யாணம் மணம் இன்னும் இருந்தது.

சாப்பாடு ஆகியிருக்கும் தூங்குகிற வேளை.

தொழு திண்ணைக்குத் தூங்க வந்தானா.

துண்டை விரித்தான். என்னெ இங்கெ தெரி படுக்கை தேடமாட்டாங்களா?

சொல்லிட்டுதான் வந்தேம்.

மடியை அவிழ்த்தான். பாக்கு வெத்திலை. வெத்திலை போடலாமா கேட்டேன்.

போடுவமே. சொல்லி, உக்கார்ந்தேன்.

வாசனைப்பாக்கு, வாசனைச் சுண்ணாம்பு.

போயிலை கிடையாதா கேட்டேன்.

கிறுகிறுப்பு வந்துரும். அந்தப்பழக்கம் இன்னும் வரலை.

உங்களுக்கு என்று கேட்டான்.

எனக்கு இருந்தாலும் சரி; இல்லைன்னாலும் சரிதான்.

போடத் தொடங்கினோம்.

பலத்த யோசனையில் இருப்பது தெரிந்தது.

முதல் எச்சிலையைத் துப்பிவிட்டு வந்தான். வெத்திலை ருசிக்கலை என்று தெரிந்தது.

அண்ணன்ட்டெ ஒண்னு கேட்டுத் தெரிஞ்சிக்கணும்னு வந்தேம். எப்பிடி ஆரம்பிக்கன்னு தெரியலைன்னு சொல்லிச் சிரித்தான்.

ஏதோ புது மாப்பிள்ளைச் சிக்கல் போலிருக்கு என்று நினைத்துக் கொண்டேன்.

திரும்பவும் வெத்திலைப்போட எத்தனித்தபோது, வேண்டாம் என்று தட சொன்னேன். சரி என்று ஒதுக்கி

வைத்துவிட்டான்.

எப்படி ஆரம்பிக்கிறதுன்னு தெரியலயே அண்ணய்யா. சோகம் இழையோடியது.

தம்பு, அமைதியா இரு. தெரிஞ்சிக்கிட்டோம் நா.

புதுமாப்பிள்ளைகளுக்கு ஏற்படும் “சிக்கல்கள்தான்; இன்னைக்கு ராத்திரி அமைதியாகப் படுத்துக்கொ. பேசினால்ப் பேசு. என்ன நடக்குது என்று பார்.

என்ன நடக்கும் அண்ணய்யா ஆவலோடு கேட்டான்.

நல்லதே நடக்கும் என்றேன்.

முகம் மலர்ந்தது; கண்கள் பனித்ததுபோல் எனக்குப்பட்டது.


மறுநாள் வந்தான். வெத்திலை பாக்கு கொண்டுவந்தான். போடாமலேயே நடந்ததை அப்படியே சொன்னான்:

இவன் முதல் ஆளாகப் போய்ப் படுத்து தூங்குவதுபோல அமைதிகாத்தான்.

பால்ச் செம்போடு வந்தவள், செம்பை வைத்துவிட்டு கொஞ்சம் காத்திருந்தாள். பிறகு கட்டிலில் இவனோடு படுத்துக் கொண்டாள்.

நேரம் போய்க்கொண்டே இருந்தது. தூக்கமும் வரவில்லை. கால் கை பிடித்துவிடும் சாக்கில் தடவிவிட்டாள்.

தூங்கப் போறீகளா என்று கேட்டாள்.

இல்லை என்றான். அவள் பக்கத்திலிருந்துதான் உடம்பு முன்னேறியது!

‘யுத்தம்’ தொடங்கியது.

கண்ணன் திருநாளில் வழுக்குமரம் ஏறியவர் வெற்றிப் பொருளைக் கைப்பற்றிக் கொண்டு, தொடைகளால் வழுக்கு மரத்தை இடுக்கிக்கொண்டு மேலேயிருந்து சர்ர் என்று வழுக்கியபடியே இறங்குவதுபோல் மணமகள் வெற்றி கொண்டாள்.

வெற்றி சமாதானமாகாமல் மீண்டும் மீண்டும் சண்டை மூண்டுகொண்டே இருந்தது.

இந்த “யுத்தத்தை” நிறுத்த இன்னும் உலகத்தில் மருந்து கண்டுபிடிக்கலையாம்.

புதுமாப்பிள்ளையும் அண்ணார் என்ற நானும் வெற்றிலைபோட ஆரம்பித்தோம்.

ஆம்பளெ தொடங்கினா வலி;

பொம்பளெயே ஆரம்பிச்சா பொலி.